This was prompted by part of Laura Bee's post of today in Dumped and crying...and it is something I have come accross before in FOB chatrooms and live discussions.
Do drug addicts belong in AA, or an extention of that question is...can one be considered sober if they have not had any booze, but say, smoked some weed?
I have had long time AAers cry to me the "no addicts in AA" speach many times. They throw the traditions at me and the "singleness of purpose" thinghy.
I have noticed that AA is the only subsatance (intoxicant) 12 step program that seems to hold alcohol and drugs as 2 distinct entities. Now, I fully realize that AA is a huge fellowship. Rules for specific meetings or groups vary. But, I have seen, with my own eyes and ears, someone take a cake for 5 yrs sober at an AA meeting, who then mentioed that maybe it was time to take care of their chrystal meth problem now, and no one batted an eye. I know that groups like the Pacific Group are much more tough on that kind of thing, so much so, that even if you are taking doctor prescribed tranquilizers, exactly as directed, that, you cannot claim sobriety at their meetings.
I have been to AA meeting where the discussion is limited to talk of alcohol only, no mention of drugs is allowed, and I have been to other AA meeting where talk of drugs is freely allowed.
All other 12 step substance programs definesobriety as being free from all mind altering chemicals, including alcohol. You cannot claim sobriety in NA while still having some wine with dinner.
What do you all think?
Do drug addicts belong in AA, or an extention of that question is...can one be considered sober if they have not had any booze, but say, smoked some weed?
I have had long time AAers cry to me the "no addicts in AA" speach many times. They throw the traditions at me and the "singleness of purpose" thinghy.
I have noticed that AA is the only subsatance (intoxicant) 12 step program that seems to hold alcohol and drugs as 2 distinct entities. Now, I fully realize that AA is a huge fellowship. Rules for specific meetings or groups vary. But, I have seen, with my own eyes and ears, someone take a cake for 5 yrs sober at an AA meeting, who then mentioed that maybe it was time to take care of their chrystal meth problem now, and no one batted an eye. I know that groups like the Pacific Group are much more tough on that kind of thing, so much so, that even if you are taking doctor prescribed tranquilizers, exactly as directed, that, you cannot claim sobriety at their meetings.
I have been to AA meeting where the discussion is limited to talk of alcohol only, no mention of drugs is allowed, and I have been to other AA meeting where talk of drugs is freely allowed.
All other 12 step substance programs definesobriety as being free from all mind altering chemicals, including alcohol. You cannot claim sobriety in NA while still having some wine with dinner.
What do you all think?
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Sat, January 29, 2005 - 6:24 PMWell. the chapter that has either 449 or 417 (depending on which edition you read) has tons of drugs...I think it's all the same thing...I would have to change my sobriety date if I were to do any kind of intoxicant. I didn't even thingk of that debate when I posted earlier...Sorry if that was innapropriate, or posted in the wrong place.
xoxoxoBee
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Sun, January 30, 2005 - 12:48 AMI call myself "clean and sober", because I am recovering from both drugs and alcohol. But, if I was to start recreationally using drugs, I would not consider myself "sober" anymore. Likewise, if I started drinking again, I would not consider myself "clean". However, I will take doctor prescribed medications, exactly as prescribed, and I consider myself to have maintained my sobriety.
I've never witnessed the discrimination that you have, at meetings. Though I have seen people think they are "sober" even though they have a pretty good Vicodin addiction going.
So, I guess, technically they are separate. But, for MYSELF, I consider them to be one and the same. But, that's because I am both a drug addict and an alcoholic. I suppose there are some out there who are one and not the other... -
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Sun, January 30, 2005 - 1:16 AMthese are things that are decided by,the intergroup convertions once a year
in new york ,the real rules on drugs given to you under the care of a medical
doctor,are allowed ,as prescribed by your doctor, group conscious on
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Mon, January 31, 2005 - 8:57 AMIt seems that every 5 years or so the issue of addicts in aa makes a ripple. My experience over the last 23 years is that the pure alcoholic is a rather endangered species, although they do exist. The 12x12 has a couple of great stories regarding this question as do other books such as Comes of Age and Doctor Bob and the Good Oldtimers. The bottom line to my knowledge is that AA doesnt really care what your other afflictions, addictions or affiliations are as long as you want to get sober. Drugs are mentioned throughout the book, the doctor's opinion and both Bill and Bob loved their 'sedatives' >wink wink<.
In my mind it really is a nonissue.
Common sense will tell you that abstinence from all substances not prescribed by a doctor constitutes the physical requirement for sobriety. Groups that insist you arent sober if you take anything, including medically prescribed and monitored medications are speaking to things they obviously know nothing about and are risking the lives of young members by spouting dogmatic rules that fly directly against our basic text. Page 133 should clear up the doctors/psychiatry/medications issue quite nicely.
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Mon, January 31, 2005 - 8:50 AMI've experienced the "discrimination" you speak of here in Reno, and it boggles my mind sometimes. AA was first, yes, but NA was founded off the same principles and ideologies that AA was... I would think the fellowship would feel a certain paternal pride in knowing addicts everywhere have a place to go to help heal themselves in ANY of the Anonymous rooms! One of the things said in NA at the beginning of every meeting is "it's not about WHAT or HOW MUCH you used, but only your desire to recover".
I'm an addict first and foremost, and alcohol was my substitute. Does that make me NOT an alcoholic? I still gave up my life and allowed my obsessive-compulsive drive to escape reality bring me to my knees. The behavior is the same, regardless of what I used. Alcohol was the first substance I found. It was always an "old reliable" fallback. So I moved on to "bigger and better" (as my addict mind likes to say), does that mean that alcohol is no longer a problem for me? Nope, not at all, that's some sick thinking that'll drive me back out to relapse if I choose to believe it. I call myself "clean and sober" to make the distinction for people around me who don't understand; if I drank today, I would lose ALL my recovery time, I wouldn't revert to merely "clean". Same as if I smoked some pot, I would lose all my time, not just be "sober" now. -
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Tue, February 1, 2005 - 3:20 PMThe balance between maintaining tradition and expanding with the times is difficult to achieve sometimes. Many "addicts"(dope fiends) don't like to admit they are drunks as well. As a heroin addict/pillhead/drunk, I chose to go to AA meetings because they serve me best in my quest to stay sober.
I have found that many times the best response to those who wish to make the "dope fiend/drunk" controversy an issue is no responce.
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Tue, February 1, 2005 - 3:29 PMI agree with Richie as I too am an addict who refers to himself as an alcoholic out of respect to AA.
I just remembered that one of our very oldtimers, Al E. (close to 50 years now) was recently quizzed on addicts in AA. His response was that it was a nonissue because AA grew up. -
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Tue, February 1, 2005 - 3:54 PMBravo to Al E!!
Alas, it seems as though not everyone in AA has grown up at the same rate.
A few clarifications.
I don't consider this "rift" as an issue of discrimination. I look at it as an issue of denial, righteousness, and the ability to quote every page of the Big Book and the 12 and 12 without experiencing the recovery available in them.
Every AAer who ever made the "no addicts in AA" argument to me always pointed out (usually in a loud voice) certain sentances in the BB and 12x12.
I started this thread in the hopes that someone with that opinion, the opinion that adicts should not be anywhere near AA, would speak up and give their reasons. To tell the truth, I can't remember what their exact points were.
I got sober in the rooms of Marijuanna Anonymous. It took me a few weeks until I started to identify myself as a marijuanna adict. It took a few months more before I also started to identify myself as an alcoholic. I guess it could be said that I caught my alcoholism in the rooms of MA.
MA has it's own text. It is kind of a 12 and 12 with stories. It is a fine book, but, it is not the Big Book. Most MA meetings sell the Big Book of AA. I bought a copy at my first MA meeting. I would never have gotten sober using the MA book alone. Everything I needed to know about my addiction was found in the Big Book.
I sadens me to say this but, some of the very same arguments used to sugest that Addicts do not belong in AA, are being used to sugest that the Big Book of AA should not be sold at MA meetings.!!!! The people that argue for it's removal cite "the singleness of purpose" and that "AA is an outside issue" from MA. There is more, but I don't have my books at hand to quote the other traditions they cite.
For me, I don't care what the traditions say. I look at this as a matter of life and death. If to remove the Big Book from MA meeting rooms leads to even 1 addict not getting sober, then it is too great a risk. The same goes for addicts attending AA meetings.
If turning away even 1 addict that had a chance to achieve sobriety and recovery because of words written when there was only 1 type of 12 step fellowship, then well...perhaps, some traditions are out of date, and could use some...... adjusting. (OMG, I know, heresy!)
Naw, I don't want to open THAT can of worms.
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Re: Addicts in AA
Tue, February 1, 2005 - 3:54 PM*nods* absolutely !
So many get on their Big Book and wag their finger about "identification". The fact of the matter is, if the person at the podium is sharing the strength and hope part of their story....it applies to all. The most important, one size fits all, rarely have we seen a person fail, point is how God could and would AND DOES when he is sought. It's those who get bogged down in the "drunk-o-log" portion of their story that have "identification" issues. -
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Tue, February 1, 2005 - 4:15 PMMost I've ever met who were using the traditions to separate alcoholics from other issues or addictions were practicing the Pharissical letter of the law. In my opinion the traditions are designed to be used in the broader spirit of the law and encourage inclusiveness and courtesy. They are the guidelines for Love & Tolerance is Our Code.
Using the Book to beat people over the head with isnt spiritual.
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Tue, February 1, 2005 - 5:09 PMI find myself in a difficult position. I attend a closed meeting, restricted to Law Enforcement and Fire personal. I am an Alcoholic only. I always feel uncomfortable when around drug users. I know that might sound funny, but it's the culture that I belong to. I know today most people are drug and alcohol users. My opinion would be to allow drug users in a meeting only if they also admitt to a problem with alcohol abuse. We don't have any drug users in the meeting. You can guess why. BTW, I am a teacher now, used to be a police officer when drinking. Got sober as a cop, got happy with life as a teacher. I hope this makes sense to the thread. I hope I'm not too biased. -
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Tue, February 1, 2005 - 5:32 PMi find that aa is the best program for me ,ive had all kinds of addictions
booze pills,,i find that aa is a strong foundation for long term soberity
ive been accicted to every thing from smoking cig to coke to morphine
and or and on 20 years of booze i have 10 years sober, humbley by the grace of my higher power. fellowship of aa
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Wed, February 2, 2005 - 11:39 AMI know that might sound funny, but it's the culture that I belong to. <<<
I tattooed "yet" (in torn paper ransom note letters) next to a begonia (flower meaning: beware) on my arm to remind myself that there's still lots of down I could fall if I drank or used...I am certain that if an alcoholic who never used drugs had an unlimited access to prescription anything that was sedative or intoxicating, they would eventually abuse it...I have heard that 'yet' can stand for "you're eligible too"...I've never tried heroine, but I know for a fact if I tried to think that I'm not a heroine addict I'd just have to put 'yet' at the end of that sentence if I thought I could get away with it. All intoxicants lead back to me eventually using alcohol, so (imho) it's all the same thing. I currently have about 30 different colors of nail polish (since sobriety)...I can get crazy behind anything.
Part of me wants to appologise for ever mentioning leafy alcohol (which is what pot really is in my reality) in this tribe...but then this discussion wouldn't have happened, and I think this thread is a valuable one. What I KNOW for sure is that I've found the best recovery in AA, and this tribe has some really good stuff for me, that's why I chose it to share in.
I've abused lots of stuff, but I earned my seat in AA by trying to brush my teeth, drink a beer and throw up all at the same time, among other things...I am first and foremost an alcoholic!!!
Ok, now I'm off to Victoria's secret...not really, but damn, that sounds fun!
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Tue, February 1, 2005 - 8:09 PMMy thought is that if you take away the drugs and give an addict access to only alcohol, they'll abuse it. That has been my experience. And as it says in the Big Book everyone needn't sink to the same bottom. I'm an addict/alcoholic but I identify myself as an alocoholic bucause i'm working the AA program. -
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Tue, February 1, 2005 - 8:15 PMSo....bottom line....Just cause you're in Victoria's Secret doesn't mean you have to wear bras and panties to appreciate, or have it "work" for you ! *grin* -
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Tue, February 1, 2005 - 8:49 PMlol sandy...you soooo deserve a pinch -
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Re: Addicts in AA
Tue, February 1, 2005 - 10:36 PMooooops....did I stumble into the wrong Tribe again ? *wink*
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Tue, February 1, 2005 - 10:58 PMThis is a very good idea for a thread, no matter what it was prompted by. I have experienced both sides of the coin in AA, early on, with an addict being removed from a position of service because she would not state she was an alcoholic. I saw her as someone who had yet to admit she was an alcoholic. We were newcomers and very green. I saw and felt a oneness with her, regardless of the semantics or the identification.
Later, when I met my sponsor. she introduced herself in meetings as a "Member of Alcoholics Anonymous." This made infinite sense to me, because all I needed to have was a desire to stop drinking.
Eventually, there came the "blue card" which asks us to keep our discussions limited to alcohol. This was interesting to me for many reasons. I supposed then that we would not be allowed to expound on the sick relationships with family, friends and lovers we have experienced, because after all, those stories then belong in a CODA meeting.
Society is not as it was in America in 1939. The Big Book states "We realize we know only a little."
I really want to be walking on the Broad Highway hand in hand with the creator. How can I do this if I am excluding, arguing, and creating more separation when unity would serve everyone much better? -
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Tue, February 1, 2005 - 11:32 PM"We found that God does not make too hard terms with those who seek Him. To us, the Realm of Spirit is broad, roomy, all inclusive, never exlusive or forbidding to those who earnestly seek. It is open we believe, to all men." (I would add, "and women")
Ok thump over. Back to Victoria's Secret.
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Wed, February 2, 2005 - 12:02 PMWorking with Others: "After all, our problems were of our own making. Bottles were only a symbol. Besides, we have stopped fighting anybody or anything. We have to!"
That just about covers it for me. If bottles are only a symbol so is everything else.
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Sun, February 6, 2005 - 11:57 AM....We are powerless over panties and our bras have become unmanagable ? -
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Sun, February 6, 2005 - 1:01 PMThen obviously it follows that you never ever have to wear a bra or panties again.
1 day at a time.
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Sun, February 6, 2005 - 2:18 PMThen obviously it follows that you never ever have to wear a bra or panties again. <<<
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Sun, February 6, 2005 - 2:41 PMHey, I just looked at the calendar and realized that it's 14 months for me today...I never woulda thought it possible!
So which is it Sandy, go without bras and panties, or off to Victoria's secret?
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Sun, February 6, 2005 - 1:38 PMdamn...now I'm gonna have to take a look at my shorts-cummings.
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Re: Addicts in AA
Sun, February 6, 2005 - 2:37 AMI got clean and sober fifteen years ago in Tallahassee, FL. I got clean in N.A. Even though it was 1990, people around there still had to convince local law enforcement and judges that it was against their best interests to stake out N.A. meetings.
The point of that is that N.A. was a very young and unstable fellowship in that part of the world at the time. After about a year, I needed to find some real clean time, and, frankly, some more white people, so I started going to A.A. meetings. Now, their A.A. is as "fundamentalist" down there as their Christianity is (frankly, this part of the world could use a bit of it - if you didn't talk about the steps or focus on the newcomer, somebody just plain told you to shut up and go find a therapist), so I basically just had to stubbornly identify myself as "an alchoholic and an addict". I did it because it was what I needed to do to stay clean: if what you need is in A.A. meetings, go there, but honor their traditions.
In my mind, I used a kind of programmers logic: the only drugs that are mentioned by name in the first (non-story) part of the N.A. Basic Text are "marijuana and alcohol", probably because the anonymous writers of the book felt it necessary to close a possibly deadly loophole. In N.A., I'd copped to being an "addict", meaning that I had admitted I was powerless over "my addiction" to all mind-altering substances, including, specifically "marijuana and alcohol", and "alcoholic" was just the common term for the included addiction to alcohol. So, when identifying myself as an "addict AND an alcoholic", which I did to honor the traditions of the A.A. Fellowship, it was to me like identifying myself as "a human and a man". Of *course*, by the N.A. line, I was an "alcoholic"; I was a also a "junkie", even though that had never been my thing - I practically faint at the sight of a syringe. If I'm an addict, I'm addicted to alcohol, and the word people use for that is "alcoholic", so what the hell. (And, in fact, given the absence of my drug of choice, I went straight for the whiskey.)
It is important to honor the traditions of the fellowship which you are attending. In my mind it's important to say your an "alcoholic" at an A.A. meeting to do so; but if you're an "addict" it's just as important to say so because some addict that's looking for help may have wandered in and you may just be there to let him know you're there too and take him to the right place.
The newcomer IS the most important person at any meeting, and to a newcomer, the lead dog is his or her drug of choice, and they have to get the lead dog first, so they should probably be shown the way to meetings where they will be in the fellowship of others who shared that drug of choice. I hope the person that was made "uncomfortable" by the presence of addicts at A.A. meetings wasn't referring to newcomers that didn't know what else to do, or to the person that might just have been put there to help him.
Keep the newcomer in mind at all times. If you have one more meeting behind you than the next guy, then you can be of service. It isn't about you. If somebody turns the meeting into some argument over semantics, that newcomer could just decide it's all a bunch of hooey and whining assholes, that the meeting was a complete waste of time, never come back, go down and take God only knows how many innocent people down with him.
If you have to speak - and you probably don't - then it's perfectly possible to speak without mentioning your drug of choice by name, just by speaking of your "addiction"; that's what you'd be doing at an N.A. meeting, anyway. Talk about one of the damned steps if you can't think of anything else to talk about. If you keep the meeting focused on the solution, none of this is really an issue, is it? -
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Re: Addicts in AA
Sun, February 6, 2005 - 4:36 PMWell, I thought I would pop my two cents in just for the hell of it. I am an alcoholic. I am greatful that I have this experience with alcohol that I don't have to substitute words in the Book - one less thing I have to worry about. For all intents and purposes, I am a lowdown, dirty dawg drug addict as well. When I got sober the first time in 89, I was convinced that I was an alcoholic. I thought that perhaps I might be able to handle drug use. Wrong. I never picked up another drink but became a huge crystal meth freak which mercifully brought me right back to the rooms in 93.
On one hand, I good friend contends (tongue in cheek) that if you were born after 1950 and drugs are NOT a part of your story, there is something terribly wrong with you. ;) All jokes aside, I concur with the statement above that out of respect for AA, I identify as an alcoholic. Period. No need for me to add and suffixes to my disease, like "addict" or "cross addicted" (What the $#% does that mean anyway?) The truth is that as long as I treat my alcoholism (meeting, steps, and service), the drug problem takes care of itself.
Now I do have a problem with folk coming in and just identifying as "addicts." Singleness of purpose ought to be maintained while realistically looking at the fact that many of us have particular drug issues as well. I don't go raising my hands at OA, GA, or SCA as an alcoholic - same steps, similar phenomenon, but ideosyncratic issues as well. I am also very involved in CMA. When I go to those meetings, I talk my speed use in a manner in which my fellow tweakers can indentify. When I give an AA talk, I make damn sure that I qualify as having a problem with alcohol.
I will paste a rather lengthy essay about the Washingtonians which I think allows for a clear framework in which I can see how my addiction fits into the recovery community.
FRAGMENTS OF AA HISTORY
THE WASHINGTONIANS
Copyright © AA Grapevine, Inc., January 1991
ON Thursday evening, April 2, 1840, six drinking buddies gathered, as was their daily customs at Chase's Tavern in Baltimore. A well-known temperance speaker was lecturing that night, and four of them thought it would be a good joke to go and hear him. As they discussed the lecture later that evening, one of them proposed (still not quite seriously that they form a total abstinence society, and on Sunday, April 5, while strolling and drinking, the six men did make a decision "to drink no more of the poisonous draft, forever."
Each of the six agreed to bring a man to the next meeting, and they wrote and signed a pledge not to "drink any spiritous or malt liquors, wine or cider." The name Washington Temperance Society was chosen in honor of George Washington.
The Society continued to meet for a time in Chase's Tavern, but when the owner's wife objected to the loss of good customers, they switched to the home of one of the members, and finally rented a hall. In November, they held a public meeting which, with subsequent monthly meetings, proved such a success that by their first anniversary, the Baltimore Washingtonians counted "about 1,ooo re- formed drunkards and 5,000 other members and friends in the parade to celebrate the occasion."
The Washingtonians were zealous in carrying their message of hope beyond Baltimore. Several leaders turned out to be powerful orators who traveled widely, speaking to large crowds, and "by May 1842 the movement had penetrated every major area of the country and was going particularly strong in central New York and New England."
At its peak, the Society's membership was estimated at anywhere from one to six million, of whom perhaps 100,000 to 600,000 were sober drunks. (One difficulty is the terminology - the Society claimed to have sobered up everything from "confirmed drunkards" to "hard drinkers often drunken" to "sots" to "tipplers in a fair way to become sots," and the distinctions were never too clear.) Others who joined up were friends and families (even very young children), as well as liquor dealers and tavern owners.
Abraham Lincoln (according to the February 1953 Grapevine) was "the foremost member of the Springfield, Illinois, Washingtonians. He had never taken whisky, but he had seen his business partner ... overcome by it." And the December 1948 Grapevine describes how "in Dedham, Mass., a Mr. Thompson proved himself such an eloquent speaker that the entire town joined.. .. The leading liquor merchant gave up his business, signed the pledge, and was made President of the village society" and poured his entire stock of liquor on the ground.
Formation of the Washingtonians was tied in many ways to the temperance movement, which had been gaining strength since 1825, but was beginning to lose momentum. At first, the Washingtonians were notable for their differences. Unlike temperance advocates, who considered the drunk a hopeless case (Justin Edwards said in 1822, "Keep the temperate people temperate; the drunkards will soon die, and the land will be free"), the Washingtonians treated drunks with love and won them over with "moral suasion." An 1842 document gave directions for organizing a Washingtonian Society, which included "Declaring that love and kindness and moral suasion are your only principles and measures."
Accounts of the early Washingtonians are in some ways remarkably similar to descriptions of AA meetings. The Washingtonians were the first to insist on the recounting of personal experience in their meetings (apparently this practice began as a pragmatic measure, when public meetings became popular and the Society's leaders had to think up a way to keep them interesting). In January 1949, Richard Ewell Brown wrote in the Grapevine: "The Washingtonian charter provided that only ex-drunks could address the meetings. Thus the 'benefits of experience spoken in burning words from the heart' were made available for all to hear. . . Debates, lectures and speeches were definitely out, and matters of business were limited to 'as few remarks as possible.' Politics and religion were both taboo as topics of discussion."
Brown went on to say: "Every effort was made to prevent the society from encroaching on anyone's prejudices, so that all people would feel free to join the organization. One purpose, and one purpose only, was held in mind: to rescue men from the toils of drink." Another aspect was simplicity: "Responsibility was divided equally... and everyone was kept busy doing missionary work, bringing new members to the weekly meetings and helping old members who had slipped back into their former habits."
Yet by 1848, the Washingtonian movement had "destroyed itself completely and dropped out of sight. With it went the hope it had held out for thousands of drunks of that day," and the only tangible evidence remaining was its Home for the Fallen in Boston.
How did it happen? The similarities between Alcoholics Anonymous and the Washingtonians are too clear to be overlooked: alcoholics helping each other, weekly meetings, sharing of experiences, constant availability of fellowship with the group or its members, reliance on a Higher Power, and total abstinence from alcohol. Why is AA celebrating 55 years of growth, while its nineteenth century forerunner fell apart within only a few years? Most historians are agreed on the reasons: For one, the Washingtonians had no sustained program of recovery comparable to AA's Twelve Steps. But the real key to their self-destruction lie in the lack of any guiding principles like those incorporated in AA's Twelve Traditions. The Washingtonian movement "met its Waterloo in the conflicting aims of its members.
Affiliation with outside enterprises; public controversy: From the beginning, the Washingtonians were closely allied with the temperance movement, and outside of Baltimore, the early "missionaries" were "invariably sponsored by temperance organizations." Temperance leaders looked upon the Washingtonians as a means of "sparking" their cause, and in the end, this became the chief interest of the Washingtonian leaders themselves. In many places, Washingtonians spoke in churches, and some came into conflict with the beliefs of religious entities. "Nothing can divide groups more quickly ...than religious or political controversy. Strong efforts were made in the Washingtonian movement to minimize sectarian, theological and political differences, but the movement did not avoid attracting to itself the hostile emotions generated by these conflicts ... it was still caught in all the controversy to which the temperance cause had become liable.',
Singleness of purpose; membership requirements: Formed for the purpose of helping drunks, a Society whose membership encompassed alcoholics, their families, and nonalcoholics of many types could not provide that vital ingredient of AA's success: identification. "The nonalcoholic member soon grew tired of listening to an endless chain of ex-drunks expatiate on an experience that, in the final analysis, had no meaning for anyone but another alcoholic." The movement's founding aim, helping drunks, "became an increasingly secondary interest of those whose primary interest was the furtherance of the temperance cause . . . And as fewer and fewer men were reclaimed, the last distinctive features of the Washingtonian movement dropped out of sight."
Anonymity.- In his discussion of AA and the Washingtonians, Milton Maxwell comments: "A comparison with the Washingtonian experience underscores the sheer survival value of the principle of anonymity in Alcoholics Anonymous. At the height of his popularity, John B. Gough [one of the most prominent of the Washingtonian missionaries] either 'slipped' or was tricked by his enemies into a drunken relapse. At any rate, the opponents of the Washingtonian movement seized upon this lapse with glee and made the most of it to hurt Gough and the movement. This must have happened frequently to less widely known ... Washingtonians. Public confidence in the movement was impaired. Anonymity protects the reputation of AA from public criticism
"Equally important, anonymity keeps the groups from exploiting prominent names for the sake of group prestige; and it keeps individual members from exploiting their AA connection for personal prestige or fame. This encourages humility and the placing of principles before personalities."
Bill W. cited the experience of the Washingtonians in a number of his writings and he considered them both a forerunner of AA and an object lesson for the Fellowships future.
In an article in the August 1945 Grapevine, he reflected on the lessons of the movement and emphasized the importance of being "strong enough and single-purposed enough from within" to be rightly related to the world: "We are sure that if the original Washingtonians could return to this planet they would be glad to see us learning from their mistakes... Had we lived in their day we might have made the same errors. Perhaps we are beginning to make same of them now." -
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Re: Addicts in AA
Sun, February 6, 2005 - 10:28 PMYou know I just thought I'd add a favorite line from a Hank Jr. tune to lighten up the situation..... "why can't we just all get a longneck"... I'm a real alcoholic and dirty dawg addict myself and by golly I won't have anyone tell an addict he or she ain't welcome ya'll laws and bullshit be damned ....I too don't know many who can't or haven't had one without the other!!! Either WE make this a WE thing or we're all gonna die alcohol is a drug DUUUHHHH!!!! -
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Re: Addicts in AA
Mon, February 7, 2005 - 4:38 AMI really do get tired of this at times. I live in a somewhat small town and I attend AA and NA. When I go to AA, I identify myself as an alcoholic (cause I am), when I go to NA I identify myself as an addict (cause I am). In my early days I would identify myself sometimes at AA meetings as an alcoholic and an addict (I guess letting people know that I did drugs too was important to me then), but now I know it's not about the substance. Thank God where I live people generally don't get their panties all in a bunch about the semantics of these things (we still have a few that do).
For me I like to keep things as simple as possible and that means, The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking. -
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Re: Addicts in AA
Sun, February 20, 2005 - 2:26 AM..... what Mikala said - to a T.
I live this program, so that I CAN live, and I've earned my seat in both AA and NA meetings. My drug of choice is NOT alcohol, but the first time I got clean, (yes, I'm a re-tread) AA was the only 12 step recovery program in my small town (except for an NA meeting that sometimes never even had anyone show up to open the door). In the beginning, I picked up (right away) that you weren't "supposed to" say that you were an addict when in an AA meeting. I was very young, brand new and scared - so I only identified myself as an alcoholic. The more meetings I went to, I found that there were some who would identify themselves as both. It became important for me to share that I was both an Alcoholic and an Addict and so for a long time - I did. Then NA became more prevalent and I tried to go to JUST NA. I found that AA had more of what I needed, to guide me in my sobriety, so I went back to JUST AA meetings. As time went on and I worked my program, I could see that it ruffled some feathers (immature behavior if you ask me) and I decided to apply the last part of Step Nine - "except when to do so would injur them or others" to this whole thing. I guess I just figured that I would be the "grown up" and just identify myself as an alcohlic, when in an AA meeting. I asked myself "What am I here for? "Is it REALLY going to hurt my sobriety to ONLY say that I'm an alcoholic when in an AA meeting?" Well, I'm here for recovery and to save my life and when I really think about it - it doesn't hurt my sobriety at all. I think of the Serenity Prayer:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.
**YOU**
The courage to change the things I can.
**ME**
And the wisdom to know the difference.
No one is going to keep me out of ANY meeting. Some days, I say I'm one or both (and I hold my head up high). It just depends on what's going on with me. All I know is (and this is what I finally figured out the last time around)... if I could ONLY drink alcohol, I might do just fine. But alcohol ALWAYS leads me back to other drugs - ALWAYS. And, if alcohol was the ONLY drug, I'd probably abuse it. I'm an addict - and for me, that means that I can use "anything" addictively, to numb out or aid me in acting out. I want recovery, and I find that what works best for me - is AA, where the ONLY requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking.
*smile*
Love and Light,
~Sandi~
(This is my first post, since being in this tribe. I'm very happy to be here.) -
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Re: Addicts in AA
Sun, February 20, 2005 - 8:14 AMWelcome Sandi!!! ((((HUGS)))) -
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Re: Addicts in AA
Sun, February 20, 2005 - 2:41 PMThank you Laura. ((((((((((((((((((Laura))))))))))))))))))) ... right back atcha...
Love and Light,
~Sandi~ -
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Re: Addicts in AA
Sun, February 20, 2005 - 3:36 PMWelcome Sandy...As far as I'm concerned, recovery is recovery, and if you are living it you're one of my people!!!
xoxoxoBee -
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Re: Addicts in AA
Sun, February 20, 2005 - 4:08 PMThank you for the welcome... (((((((((((((((((((Bee)))))))))))))))))))
I look forward to spending time with you folks, so it's great to feel a "part of".
Love and Light,
~Sandi~ -
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Re: Addicts in AA
Sat, March 5, 2005 - 6:39 PMWhen this debate crops up in my local meetings, I silently remember a few things I was told by my first sponsor: take what you need and leave the rest, and to thy own self be true. If I worried about what every one else in the program is doing, am I working mine? It is a "we" program, but no one works anothers recovery. AA has grown up, and as all things must evolve, so does patience and tolerance... Acceptance is the key! -
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Re: Addicts in AA
Sat, March 5, 2005 - 6:57 PMHere Here!!!!
or is it
Hear! Hear!!
better yet
Listen! Listen!!
best
Amen!
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